We sometimes lament our personal
“disadvantages” and regret that we began our “race” so poorly. There are two
things essentially wrong with such a melancholy reflection. One, God was
watching over our birth context and family influences and has been working a
divine purpose even through that. It was God, not man, who “... determined
the times set for them and the exact places where they should live” (Acts
17:26). The setting of our birth and the families into which we are born are
also a part of the personal growth process God has designed for each of us.
If we complain about the “disadvantage” of where we were born, we are
denying that God has the power to work in that situation — we are accusing
God. If used correctly, our situation has advantages God prepared for us.
Two, how we start the race is not nearly as significant as how we finish it.
At age 55, I ran my first marathon. I have run 29 more since then.
In each race throughout the first 10 or so miles, I am usually passed by
person after person. My third race was the Andy Payne Memorial Marathon —
three times around Lake Overholser just west of Oklahoma City. The race
began in a drizzling rain at 6:30 a.m. and ended in the heat of a sunny
Oklahoma morning in May. At Mile 20, I began to count the people that
passed me and how many I passed. To my surprise, no one passed me, and I
passed 21 runners, most of whom were younger than I! Have you ever
heard that a marathon race begins at Mile 20?
I can well remember reflecting on the importance of the finish of the race,
saying to myself during those last six and two-tenths miles as I passed
those other runners, “The reason that I train is so I can do this.” I
stopped feeling apologetic every time I passed someone and began to enjoy
passing other runners — winning late in the race — in spite of the pain. I
placed second in my age group with my best time until then. A year later, I
won first place in my age group in that same marathon. After running 3 hours
and 40 minutes, I passed the man who won second place in the last 200 yards!
I admit it is disheartening to be passed by so many during the earlier part
of the race, but even with a tired body and aching muscles, there is joy in
my heart to finish well. Our race in life as growing Christians is much like
that. If we learn to endure, we can finish well, even if we didn’t start
well.
When in Bible College, I had a gifted, prayerful, and zealous classmate.
My wife, Char, and I knew him and his wife well. Char and his wife had been
friends since childhood and during Bible college years. Char even traveled
to youth camp one summer singing and ministering with them. Later, during
our first years in Korea, Char and I worked under his supervision. He was
intellectually talented, and there were numerous times his verbal and people
skills impressed me. Nevertheless, years later and some years ago now, he
divorced his wife and not too long after that married a wealthy lady 30
years older than himself. He did not leave his wife to marry the wealthy
lady. However, having divorced and then married one so much older than
himself negatively affects his influence as an exemplary Christian leader. I
grieve to think of his lost potential for meaningful Christian service.
Receiving God-given material blessings is fine, but to manipulate
circumstances in the pursuit of financial goals does not position him to
finish well. He sprinted well earlier in the race — if only he were still
pressing on to finish well.
On the other hand, most of us have observed some senior and seasoned
believers doing very well, maturing further and further with strong spirits
even late in life. To listen to such mature yet growing veterans is a joy;
they speak from many years of continual growth with rich experience. We
rejoice that they have not stopped growing, and their examples encourage us
to finish well, too.
There are many people that seem to have advantages over us at the
beginning of our races. We all can think of examples. My cousins had
advantages I wished I had: better educations, more financial resources,
better connections and, it seemed, more native talent. Never mind. If we set
our minds to finish well, we will view our life experiences as learning
opportunities and run better and better as the years go by.
Long-term development and service flows out of who we are. We must
maintain integrity and spirituality if long-range good is to flow out from
us. Development that has peaked, ceased growing, or is set aside —
disciplined by God — usually can be traced back to problems in spirituality.
We must not stop growing inwardly. It’s the finish that counts. Be patient
with yourself. The increase of our spiritual influence is a long process.
Understanding God’s developmental process assumes that, throughout a
lifetime, a Christian continues to increase in godly influence and
experiences God’s continued involvement in his growth.
My father was a pastor who had a vision for opening new churches. At various times
throughout my junior and senior high school days, we would travel to nearby
towns and paint and repair roofs on old church buildings. Then Dad would
find someone with a pastor’s heart to serve in that church. Dad’s “hobby”
had no income and considerable expenses. To finance this, he would
brush-paint houses and buildings in our hometown and the neighboring
countryside. Dad and I, as I look back on it now, spent literally hundreds
of hours painting, working, and talking together during those years. During
the school year, I would help paint after I was through carrying papers on
weekdays and then on Saturdays too. During the summer, I would paint until
it was time for me to go to the newspaper office.
At the time, I thought my cousins had advantages. Now I realize that I
had another set of advantages. I learned to work without allowing myself to
be distracted. I learned that no sacrifice was too great to help build God’s
kingdom. I learned that serving God brought greater satisfaction and
certainly more hope of reward in heaven than material gain. I learned to
push myself, and my body and arms grew strong. I learned how to carry a
ladder extended 40 feet into the air. I learned how to be safe in
potentially dangerous places. I learned to deal with working in high places,
how to remain composed on the top of a 40-foot ladder when wasps did not
welcome me in the vicinity of their home. I learned how to calmly destroy
the whole nest without jumping off. Through these experiences, I learned to
focus and how to stay focused. I learned the value of work. And I learned
the value of laughter and rest. There is, of course, another set of possible
lessons that could be learned by economically privileged persons like my
cousins. The point is not that you need difficulties or
disadvantages in order to learn, but that you need a teachable
attitude so you learn from whatever circumstances or experiences come your
way.
Two further benefits give me cause to appreciate what happened in those
years. One is that I experienced no distance between my father and myself.
We remained friends throughout those years. He called me “pal” until he
died. Upon reflection, I now know why I sometimes call my sons that.
Secondly, he passed on to me the ability to value “things above.” The work
ethic and spiritual values that I “inherited” from my dad during those years
helped me work my way through Bible College and to hold steady through many
fulfilling years of ministry.
Some people do not appreciate the kingdom-related values Dad passed on to
me, and this is their loss and my regret. In some vocations, supervisors
help monitor our activities so we keep working. But the ability to focus and
monitor ourselves is something experience produces. How blessed I am to have
learned how to do that during my high school years, painting houses, barns,
and church buildings.
In the development of our potential, our growth process is more like a
marathon than a sprint. What one thinks about, how one concentrates, how one
remains focused and how one avoids listening to certain voices (aching
muscles) all go into the hours of training for and running a marathon. In a
sprint, it all happens much faster and is over in a moment. In the long
process of our life-long race, it helps if we learn to appreciate the
adventure as it unfolds. The process of Christian development entails
adventure, suspense, waiting, expectation, surprises, growth, set-backs, and
victories. One of the keys is to realize it is a process and settle in for
the long haul.